Preface

Crisis and Growth: Helping Your Troubled Child
by Howard J. Clinebell, Jr.

Preface

As a veteran beleaguered parent loaded with guilt and confusion, I decided to step back and try to figure out why, though many of the things I've read are partly helpful, I seem to harbor a sort of resentment toward all the authors of books for parents. I think it's because, while they all give lip service to the fact that parents are human beings, they then go on to expect superhuman behavior and emotional maturity from us.

We are to be firm but not rigid; flexible but not inconsistent; friendly but not palsy-walsy; provide wise, careful and constant guidance but encourage independence; set a good example of course; and never use threats, rewards or punishments. They all give the distinct impression that whatever is wrong with the child is the parents' (especially mother's) fault, and that's such a heavy burden to bear.