Chapter 4. Relationship-Building Tools

Growth Counseling for Marriage Enrichment
by Howard J. Clinebell, Jr.

Chapter 4. Relationship-Building Tools

The elements [of a dialogical relationship] are, first, a relation . . . between two persons, second, an event experienced by them in common, . . . and third, the fact that this one person, without forfeiting anything of the felt reality of his activity, at the same time lives through the common event from the standpoint of the other. 1. -- Martin Buber

The most satisfying and most complete example of ego transcendence, and certainly the most healthy from the point of view of avoiding illness of the character, is the throwing of oneself into a healthy love relationship. 2.

-- Abraham Maslow