Chapter 2. The Intentional Marriage Method — A Basic Growth Tool

Growth Counseling for Marriage Enrichment
by Howard J. Clinebell, Jr.

Chapter 2. The Intentional Marriage Method — A Basic Growth Tool

Genuine responsibility exists only where there is real responding . . . to what is to be seen and heard and felt. 1.

-- Martin Buber

One important aspect of a good love relationship, is what may be called need identification, or the pooling of the hierarchies of basic needs in two persons into a single hierarchy. The effect of this is that one person feels another's needs as if they were his own and for that matter also feels his own needs to some extent as if they belonged to the other.2.

-- Abraham Maslow